She lived with us for several months and we did kick her out because not only would she not get a FT job, she crashed my car and didn't apologize. Now she rents a room for $100 a month at her grandmothers house. Its close to her work. She does seem to care about her current job.
We have talked about her goals and she does have 'dreams' to become a fashion buyer or a high end makeup artist. But it's difficult to become anything when you don't want to work for it.
We would like to implement some tough love but we don't know how when she is not getting anything from us. The most we do for her is give her money occassionally for her phone bill or gas and I sometimes buy her fresh fruit to eat because she can't afford it.
She is still covered on my health insurance which isn't free but I don't think allowing her to stay on my health insurance is enabiling.
How can we implement tough love when we really don't have any leverage over her?