At 2 years four months a child is still not sufficiently separated from it's mother. It is hard to know why he is doing this because I don't know any of the developmental history. Let me explan a little to you about early childhood development.
There is a book that you might want to read written by Margaret S. Mahler, MD and Manuel Furer, MD. --- "On Human Symbiosis and the Vicissitudes of Individuation". Margaret Mahler is the definitive researcher on early childhood ego development. It might be of interest to you to read this book. It will really help you understand why she is behaving the way she is when she has to be separated from mommy --- even by going to sleep. A child is in the Symbiotic phase of early ego development until 4-5 months old. child They are just beginning to learn the difference between themselves and mommy. At 1 1/2 years old the child is still not able to separate. They could walk away from mommy but need to turn around and see that mommy is there. This is the separation-individuation stage. At 23 months a child is not separated from it's mother. In fact, a child cannot separate from it's mother until age 3. At age 3, a child has developed object constancy. What that means is that at age 3, when a child is away from it's mother it can understand that it's mother is coming back. Before age 3 a child has no object constancy and does not know that mother will come back. --
So all that being said I have no idea what has transpired until now. Do you work? Have you traveled without her? These would be important questions to be answered to understand what is happening now.
OOPS!!! Sorry, I meant him, not her.
So now let's go to another point. He is getting older --- why is he napping for 2-3 hours during the day. Try reducing it. He is sleeping too much during the day so, of course, it will be harder to get him to go to sleep at night. Many children that age do not nap at all during the day.
As for his diet, I would seduce him with a treat that he likes A F T E R he has eaten his dinner. Show him the treat and let him know he can only get it after he eats his meal.
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What is the reasonable nap length for him? yesterday he didn't nap and went to bed ok, but was tired in the evening.
I tried to give him juice later, but he is throwing tantrum and still doesn't want to eat his food. And for breakfast he stopped eating cereal and prefers waffles, which are not that nutritious. Should i just go with the waffles?
Let's do one thing at a time. A lot, a lot of kids don't nap at that age. ( Mine didn't ). Some do. But I would play it by ear. Only nap as long as it doesn't interfere with bedtime. If he's very tired early evening then maybe let him nap a tiny bit OR keep him occupied and amused until bedtime --- do that for a while until he establishes a routine that works.
As for the food, if he's eating waffles, so be it.
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