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My 5 1/2 year old daughter slapped several times her 9 week

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My 5 1/2 year old daughter slapped several times her 9 week old sibling in the face because he would not stop crying - how to punish and prevent.
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Parenting
Expert:  Dr. Gupta replied 5 years ago.

ParentingMD :

Kids at this age (5 years) are best dealt with being CONSISTENT about the punishments. Kids this age depend on familiar routines and structure, and that applies to understanding your expectations for their behavior. A child gets confused when a behavior that warrants a time-out one day gets a quick "Stop that!" the next. The best way to reinforce the rules is to apply them reliably.

ParentingMD :

By age 5, your child is big enough and strong enough, and should be able to follow basic rules.

ParentingMD :

Hence after appropriately warning her of the consequences of hitting her sib (which is actually a sign of sibling rivalry)

ParentingMD :

she needs to be given a 'time out' to discipline her as needed

ParentingMD :

On the other hand, you need to manage the issue of sibling rivalry too

ParentingMD :

so spend sometime with the elder one "alone"

ParentingMD :

Also try to involve her in the care of the younger one - for example helping in getting her nappy to you,

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helping choose the color of her dresses

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etc

ParentingMD :

Once she feels responsible for the younger one, she is likely to start enjoying her company

ParentingMD :

Right now, she sees the younger one as a threat since the ounger one obviously needs a lot more attention, and gets it

ParentingMD :

Try to keep some gifts in the house, that you can pass on to visiting friends / relatives if they forget to bring any gifts for the elder one, so she does not feel neglected

ParentingMD :

While you need to be clear and consistent in enforcing discipline

ParentingMD :

once the disciplining is over, you need to give her attention too, and make sure that she has at least some quality time with both parents

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Please remember to accept the answer by pressing the GREEN accept button, do get back for any clarifications

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Experience: Experienced, Board Certified practicing Pediatrician experienced in common parenting issues.
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Expert:  proexpert37 replied 5 years ago.
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