3years they have been working on this and want him to get married
Met her in high school
His college is 17 hours
Yes now he is talking about marring her soon she does not want him to go back
Hello and Thank You for responding. Unfortunately, your son is an adult and can make adult decisions now. If he were under the age of 18, then you could step in and have more of a say. Continue seeing your counselor if you feel that it is helping you emotionally. Right now, all you can do is to try to encourage him to finish college so that at least he will have a degree from a awesome school which will hopefully enable him to land a great job. If you bad mouth the girlfriend and her family, that will create a greater distance between your son and your family. Just lay low for a while and continue to be as loving and supportive as possible in all of the things that he is doing that you agree with. It is virtually impossible to change another person. The only thing that you can control is your own reactions to the other person's actions. Keep your distance from the girlfriend's family as they do sound a bit odd. However, do maintain communication with your son but try to stay positive. He is still relatively young and is being manipulated by this girlfriend and her family. If you have been unable to break through to him, then maybe try and have his older brother talk to him in person.
Hopefully, I have provided some insight on this situation for you. Have a good weekend.