They live about a quarter mile away
We see my grandson and daughter about one hour a week ,son inlaw about half hour a month
No they would still be in a apartment
daughter 34 son inlaw 37
alot of tension
I would suggest that you, your spouse, daughter, and son in law all sit down and have an open and honest discussion about how you miss the way things were in the past and how you would like to spend more time with each other. Then you can ask them has there been anything that you or your spouse ever did to cause a distance between you and them or is there anything that you can do to improve the relationship. I know that sounds very easy to do but with the tension already present, it may not be possible. But you can call up your daughter and son in law and invite them over saying that you have some important family matters that you would like to discuss. If they turn down your request, then write a letter without blaming anyone for anything. It is best try to figure out where everyone stands with this situation in stead of playing a guessing game in which no one will win. Also, for the sake of your grandchild...you want everyone to get along and be peaceful.
Have a great day!!!