Hello and Thank You for using Just Answer. I am sorry to hear about the problems that you are having with your son. I am not sure if you are the mother or the father but your son should not be disrespecting you at all in any way shape or form as long as he is residing in your home. If he is being that out of control, then as an adult he may need to find another place to live. You do not have to tolerate emotional abuse from your adult son. Set boundaries and limits. If he crosses them, he must suffer the consequences. You have the authoritative role as the parent. Do not let your son manipulate you. Step up to the plate and put your foot down TODAY. Talking to him will not change him at all. You can never change him. You can only change your reactions to his actions.
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I am sorry to hear about your family situation. So your son remains disrespectful, you have no support from your husband, and you feel all alone in your family? I would suggest family counseling for all of you to reconnect as a cohesive family unit. You, your son, and your husband are all on separate pages in the agenda of life. Family counseling will help especially if your son is going to continue living in your home.
In order to get your son to respect you, you and your husband must work together to set the household standards. You cannot do it alone. Explicitly tell your son what you expect and ask him why is he not complying. Give it a while along with the therapy. Your son has to have the will to change. It may be a time where he needs to move out and be on his own if refuses to give change a try.