Hello and Thank You for using Just Answer. I am sorry to hear about the problems that you are having with your son. He is an adult and is being abusive to his family. It is not fair to you to live in fear and to walk on eggshells all of the time because anything may set him off. You need to tell him again that he must leave. Have you ever thought about putting his belongings on the front porch while he is away at work and then changing the locks to the house. When he comes home and gets out of control, you can call the police on him. Additionally, you can press charges for his stealing your things. Since he refuses to live by the rules of the house, he must not be allowed to live there. Another more drastic alternative is to move away from him. It sounds as though his behavior is a result of his drug usage. You must make a drastic change before someone in the family gets hurt as a result of your son's out of control behavior.