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First congratulations on your baby girl!
At your daughter age it may very well be that a bit of separation anxiety is at play. However, her teething could also be playing a role. Do not feel horrible! she doesn't think you are neglecting her. There is nothing wrong with sitting and rocking your baby for a few minutes at bedtime, look at a book,whisper, sing and get her calm. If she then screams when you put her in the crib, it's okay, it may take a few days but it will stop. Just keep doing what you have did last night. What you are doing is a type of behavior modification, she is use to falling asleep by rocking. If you do this consistently it should end (as long as her teething isn't keeping her uncomfortable) within a week (yes, you'll be a bit anxious during this time)
Thanks! So do you agree that it's ok to go in and soothe her at the first cry, wait 5 minutes, go back again if she is still crying and soothe her, then wait 10 minutes and keep doubling each time? Or should I let her cry it out from the time I put her down and not go back in?
I would also suggest that you might want to put "soft" music on when you put her down, if she has something in her crib, a toy attached that plays lullaby and put that on every night she may be distracted and in time that will be something that means bedtime.
Ok, thanks so much for your help! I appreciate it.