That is exactly what I have told her, but she will not tell him. She will not talk to father(my husband) about it. Should we contact him and if so, say what, otherwise he will never know. Mother feels it might make the child make bad decisions in life, because at this point he was a big high school athlete and is in college about to play football for his college, and she also doesn't want to hurt her husband(the only father he has ever known). But, it is not fair to my husband who has never had children.
Thank you for your help. I felt that was probably the best also, if the mother would not tell him, which like you said would be the best way to find out, but I guess we needed confirmation from someone removed from the situation.