The alcoholism has become a family problem. Trying to work on a relationship of marriage of 25 years especially when there are children involved would be the best course of action to take especially if you still love your husband and are willing to accept the fact that the man that you first married is not the same man that you are married to today. Since the children want their dad around, love him dearly, and care for him tremendously, you must consider their interests. If you were to divorce your husband, your children may experience emotional problems of your marriage failing because divorce is tremendously hard for children to accept. But if you feel in your heart that is the next step that you must take, then do what you must do. If you could work out an arrangement that would be acceptable for all parties involved without having the court decide, that would be so much easier. Here are some questions to ask yourself:
1. Do I love my husband?
2. Could I live the rest of my life with a man who has an alcohol problem?
3. How would my kids feel about a divorce?
4. How does my husband feel about a divorce?
5. Could I live without my husband?
6. Would I feel like a failure if the marriage ended?
7. How did I feel when my husband relocated for his job and how did the children feel?
8. Was our household lonely without my husband when he first moved away?
9. How much does my husband contribute to the upbringing of our children?
10. Am I willing to fight the disease of alcoholism with my husband no matter what it takes?
Hope this helps. If you need more assistance, let me know!!! Have a good evening. Take care.