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she met him in their freshman year of high school. they were both attending same high school he moved away about 6 months into his freshman year they had became boyfriend and girlfriend in that time. yes she is giving up college to leve with him at his parents house since that is where he lives now as far as I am understanding he finished fast trak high school last year because he could not stay out of trouble in school so they offered him the fast trak where they do not physically go to classes they sit in a room and take all the courses on a comuter keeping them out of the regular population and keep them from causing trouble he is only 17 turning 18 in march. She tells me she doesnt see any abuse that he says things out of anger or such. That he really doesnt mean it... Yes she sees a future with him
My Just Answer friend...There are basically three courses of action to take and you must decide which one would be best for you: 1. Do nothing. Allow your daughter to move in with this guy and let her learn from her mistakes and wrong choices. You will definitely take a back seat on this path. 2. Tell your daughter that she is at the age to be considered an adult. So she must make adult decisions. Tell her to think about the consequences of her actions. Tell her that you do not approve of her going to live with this gentleman. She is throwing her life away. She is thinking with her heart and not her mind. She should not live with a guy and have "pretend" marriage living situation. 3. Discuss the issue with the gentleman's parents and see how they feel about it.
You have to think about which course of action suits YOU the best and what you would feel good about doing. You cannot change your daughter. You can only change your reactions to her actions.
Hope this provides some insight.