Well, I dont agree with your answer. I looked this 'Mental Illness' up on WebMD. First of all, he is not hostile, he does not have any learning disablilites, or mood disorders.
I think it is his age and that he is trying to see how much he can be in control. That is why I specifically clicked on someone to answer my question that was a parenting specialist with no medical training. It seems as though every child that does't sit on the couch and not move has some type of 'Mental Illness'. And, no, I am not a mother in denial.
Thanks...but no thanks.
Your son has come to a point in his young life and has realized that he does not have to do everything that Mommy says. He now has developed his own separate agenda. Continue to have structure and limits. Be consistent as well with your demands. Use a stern voice when reprimanding if needed. These elements are essential for enforcing discipline. The main gaol of discipline is to teach what is acceptable and what is not. It should not serve as a punishment with yelling and spanking all of the time.
What you must do now is do not give bad behavior attention so much...as difficult as that may be. You must focus more on the positive actions that your son is exhibiting and really praise and reward him. If you tell him to go in his room and he only stays a limited time, praise him for his limited time and request that he stay longer next time.
You want to reconnect with your son and have lots of fun. These years of youth will soon be gone. Get him involved in activities outside the home as well. Some parks and recreation programs have activities for three year olds.
Be a good role model for your son. Do not let him know that you are frustrated with him. Stay as positive as you can. A loving and nurturing household is what will motivate him to do improve.
Hope this helps!!! If not, let me know.