I am not a single parent, although my husband does often travel for business for weeks at a time so it is often only me at home with the kids. I have a son who was born two months before Emma's second birthday.
She has only just started at school this January but seems to be fitting in well enough. She did struggle to make friends initially, being the only new girl in the class but was settled within two weeks.
She has been going to gymnastics twice a week for a year now and has always been fine with the kids there and has never had any problem making friends in the past.
She is usually ok with other adults unless she feels challenged and then she will stand her ground. She refuses to let any doctor or medical person near her and will physicall fight them off if they try to touch her. She did see a psychologist about this after she was hospitalised after swallowing medication when she was three, as she was deeply affected by the incident. The psychologist suspects this may stem from sensory intergration issues, as she always physically fought any doctor prior to the incident.
She has always been like this. She was always very allert even as a newborn and has never needed much sleep, she reached all her milestones early and was using 5 word sentences by the time she was 18months old, she is also very active and virtually fearless. She is very intelligent and seems to pick up on everything happening around her.
I am afraid that if I dont get control over this defiance now I will have major problems later on. She seems to think that she knows it all already and will always answer back when my husband or I tell her to do something.
I have wondered about ODD before with her.
I wanted to know, what is better, to"pick my battles" or to be consistant?
The next time that you are able to take your daughter to see her pediatrician, mention your concerns about ODD to him/her and what you have been experiencing. In the meantime, "pick your battles" but also be consistent in focusing more on the positive. Give it a 2-3 months and see what happens...if you can tolerate it. If you cannot make it to see your daughter's pediatrician discuss the issues over the telephone and seek a referral from him/her. Your daughter may feel more at ease going to see a psychologist because she will not have to be touched physically. Also, the office of a psychologist's office is usually more cozy like a family room which would be less threatening for your daughter. She could receive on going coping strategies in managing her behavior and you could receive intervention strategies as well.
Hope this helps. Have a great Sunday!!!!