How JustAnswer Works:

  • Ask an Expert
    Experts are full of valuable knowledge and are ready to help with any question. Credentials confirmed by a Fortune 500 verification firm.
  • Get a Professional Answer
    Via email, text message, or notification as you wait on our site.
    Ask follow up questions if you need to.
  • 100% Satisfaction Guarantee
    Rate the answer you receive.

Ask proexpert37 Your Own Question

proexpert37
proexpert37, Educator/Life Coach
Category: Parenting
Satisfied Customers: 1374
Experience:  Teacher 20+ years, Parent, Expert Mentor
49595756
Type Your Parenting Question Here...
proexpert37 is online now
A new question is answered every 9 seconds

Hi, Im contacting you because I have a teeneger son who is

Customer Question

Hi,
I'm contacting you because I have a teeneger son who is 14 years old, and refuses to go to school in the mornings. He just simply tells us, that we can not make him do anything against his will. Today he left for school in the morning, but recently we got a call from school, that he did not go to any of his classes. We live in Los Angeles, California.
I'm hoping that you can give me some advice, if there is anything i can do, to force him to go to school?!

Thank you!!
Submitted: 3 years ago.
Category: Parenting
Expert:  proexpert37 replied 3 years ago.
Hello my friend. How long has he been refusing to attend school? Is he basically a good kid?
Customer: replied 3 years ago.
Started about 3 months ago, and it is going on on and off, not an every day thing, but happens about twice a week. In general he is a good kid, but recently he talks very disrespectful with us, basically that we can kiss his butt, and to get a f**k out of his room, i even took his door lock of, because when I was waking him up in the morning, he locked his room so i couldn't go back in to make sure that he is awake, and he is getting ready, and he would just go back to sleep.
Expert:  proexpert37 replied 3 years ago.

Hello again...First of all try to talk with your son and determine the reason why he does not want to attend school. He may be faced with bullying problems, academic failure, social pressures, and even relationship problems. The next step is to ascertain what your son does when he skips school. Is he hanging out with friends, getting involved with drugs, or just staying at home playing video games. The next step would be to get the school involved because your son will be considered truant for skipping school and the school will in turn place the responsibility on the parents. Speak with your son's guidance counselor immediately and he/she will be able to provide supportive counseling for you as well as for your son. If that route does not work, then seek assistance from a professional counselor who specializes in teen age boys. It is hard to force your son to attend school. He must have an intrinsic motivating factor of why he should go to school. But before he has that desire, the problem must be discovered.

 

Hope that provides you with a little direction. If you need more assistance, just ask.

 

I noticed that you live in Los Angeles. If your son attends school in LAUSD, you may check out their website and see if there are any additional resources for parents.

Customer: replied 3 years ago.
Can i take him out of high school for a month, and send him to his father, he lives in Hawaii?
Expert:  proexpert37 replied 3 years ago.

Yes..you can take him out of school for a month for an extended absence. You will need to talk to his counselor at school and explain your situation. If he is in fact planning to return to the same school after the month is over, he may be required to complete some assignments so that his extended absence will not have a detrimental impact on his academic progress. If at all possible, try to schedule that month of being in Hawaii during the Spring Break so that he will only miss 3 weeks of school.

 

Any more questions, just ask. Have a great weekend.

JustAnswer in the News:

 
 
 
Ask-a-doc Web sites: If you've got a quick question, you can try to get an answer from sites that say they have various specialists on hand to give quick answers... Justanswer.com.
JustAnswer.com...has seen a spike since October in legal questions from readers about layoffs, unemployment and severance.
Web sites like justanswer.com/legal
...leave nothing to chance.
Traffic on JustAnswer rose 14 percent...and had nearly 400,000 page views in 30 days...inquiries related to stress, high blood pressure, drinking and heart pain jumped 33 percent.
Tory Johnson, GMA Workplace Contributor, discusses work-from-home jobs, such as JustAnswer in which verified Experts answer people’s questions.
I will tell you that...the things you have to go through to be an Expert are quite rigorous.
 
 
 

What Customers are Saying:

 
 
 
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
< Last | Next >
  • Wonderful service, prompt, efficient, and accurate. Couldn't have asked for more. I cannot thank you enough for your help. Mary C. Freshfield, Liverpool, UK
  • This expert is wonderful. They truly know what they are talking about, and they actually care about you. They really helped put my nerves at ease. Thank you so much!!!! Alex Los Angeles, CA
  • Thank you for all your help. It is nice to know that this service is here for people like myself, who need answers fast and are not sure who to consult. GP Hesperia, CA
  • I couldn't be more satisfied! This is the site I will always come to when I need a second opinion. Justin Kernersville, NC
  • Just let me say that this encounter has been entirely professional and most helpful. I liked that I could ask additional questions and get answered in a very short turn around. Esther Woodstock, NY
  • Thank you so much for taking your time and knowledge to support my concerns. Not only did you answer my questions, you even took it a step further with replying with more pertinent information I needed to know. Robin Elkton, Maryland
  • He answered my question promptly and gave me accurate, detailed information. If all of your experts are half as good, you have a great thing going here. Diane Dallas, TX
 
 
 

Meet The Experts:

 
 
 
  • Rafael M.T.Therapist

    Family Counselor

    Satisfied Customers:

    108
    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
< Last | Next >
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/IN/intrapsyc.com/2012-2-20_161928_RGMTPicturex5002012.64x64.png Rafael M.T.Therapist's Avatar

    Rafael M.T.Therapist

    Family Counselor

    Satisfied Customers:

    108
    MHT-MHRS-MS-MA Integral Psychotherapist & Life Coach
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/jhollo77/2010-2-6_651_Avatar.jpg Jennifer's Avatar

    Jennifer

    School Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    77
    Collaborative parent consultation on everything from modifying behavior to child development.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/VO/vodkas25/2012-1-29_16528_P1010831.64x64.JPG professional_Alison's Avatar

    professional_Alison

    Child Care

    Satisfied Customers:

    77
    Degree in early years,16 years experience in childcare
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/HU/hungryjack20/IMG_1281_edit_2.64x64.jpg Dr. L's Avatar

    Dr. L

    Psychologist

    Satisfied Customers:

    40
    Licensed as psychologist and marriage and family therapist
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KA/KaterB1270/2012-5-2_17226_016.64x64.jpg KaterB1270's Avatar

    KaterB1270

    Teacher

    Satisfied Customers:

    18
    BS Family Consumer Sciences Ed. and Masters of Art in Teaching
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/KA/Kansastherapist/2012-6-13_171911_4upon20120220at14.64x64.jpg KansasTherapist's Avatar

    KansasTherapist

    LSCSW

    Satisfied Customers:

    17
    17 years experience with depression, abuse, and borderline.
  • http://ww2.justanswer.com/uploads/norriem/2009-5-27_134249_nm.jpg NormanM's Avatar

    NormanM

    Author, lecturer and psychotherapist.

    Satisfied Customers:

    17
    ADHP(NC), DHP, ECP, UKCP Registered
 
 
 

Related Parenting Questions

Chat Now With A Parenting Counselor
proexpert37
proexpert37
Parenting Counselor
1374 Satisfied Customers
Teacher 20+ years, Parent, Expert Mentor