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Wow..this is the EXACTLY the same issue that I had with my son last year when he started high school.. He gave us the same excuses as well. I am a teacher so I felt even more awful. Looking back on my son's experiences and comparing it with your daughter, freshman get so caught up in the social scene at school. They have more independence and we even also give them more by not checking their work and staying on top of their assignments. I took away the Play Station , limited computer time, limited cell phone time at home, limited outings with friends, etc. I even got him a tutor for Math. Taking away those things did not help much. His grades did not improve. He had to go to summer school. That was an eye opening experience for him He realized that he was not like most of the "dummies" in summer school that really did not care about school. This year, he is doing 10x better. I think the freshman year is the experimental year and the students are trying to find where and how they fit in. Unfortunately, grades are not as important. Also, the students find out that many colleges and universities only really look at 10th and 11th grade grades. The students also have this idea that a "D" is not that bad because it is still passing. Your daughter is very influenced by her friends right now. It is the whole peer pressure factor that is in control. Just try to stay supportive and not get too upset. That will make matters worse. Get a tutor in her worst classes, take some things away, and even schedule a conference with your daughter's teachers if neessary. Just get through this year. I am sure 10th grade will be much better. I am sorry if I seem like I am rambling, but as I read your story, I was just amazed how it mirrored my life at this time last year. Hang in there. Things will get better.
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