Thank you for contacting JUst Answer. I am so terribly sorry to hear about what you are dealing with. First, you and your son --- all of the family have gone through a lot. Children don't sit down and tell us what they are upset about/ what is bothering them. They act out. They show destructive behaviour. Because children don't talk that's why we child therapists do play therapy with children. The child when in a therapist's office will engage in play and then the therapist can interpret what is going on. From what you have said, the only thing I can see --- unless there are other situations, is that your son is responding to all the trauma in his life. Only by bringing him to a child therapist will you be able to determine what is going on with him. There is no way to help him work through all this trauma without him seeing a child therapist. Don't spank him --- that won't help.
Thank you, XXXXX XXXXX that a lot has happened, and I am seeking a child therapist now...unfortunately it takes time, my question is what do I do during his bouts of uncontrollable rage? I agree, spanking is not the answer, but what should I do? I am at my wits end, I can't do this day after day, it is effecting my daughter now and is seriously damaging my psychie.