your answer was would i like a thoro list of suggestions to assist you?
of course? did you send another response that I did not see?
i dont understand your question? I need help I want to do the right thing for my little grandson my husband is in denial always in life dont want any problems cant handle nothing always had all on my shoulders he was a good supporter but that was it dont bring him any problems.
he is a little angry and negative now and his responses to me are not as nice as they used to be and he yells at my grandson if he hears anything like this or i have to repremand my grandson he says he is spoiled and starts yelling at him and my grandson starts cursing and acting out???
and rebelling bad at him. and i have to get all lupset, i dont know how to control my husbands behavior ..i feel i get a lot from my grandson when im calm and talking and understanding he is quite the gentlemen and helpful little child.
sometimes he cant handle no! but i distract him and he listens and it works he does not like to be yelled out or screamed at he acts up worse,
the same as my son. but my husband is acting out and makes the behavior worse.
what do I do. Im sick its going to affect his life, today they label kids and they
start saying dysfuncional and all those behavioral treatments it scares me as i know he is fine with me / and does not need a lot of disapline. please help
Wow...you really have a lot going on in your life.
With the relationship with your husband: There is really nothing you can do or say to change his actions and beliefs. He seems to be set in his ways. He displaces his anger about other life events onto you which is not fair but that is his nature.
With the relationship with your son: He is an adult now. You have raised him. It is now his turn to be the parent even if you do not agree with his parenting style. It is true that he did not have a good role model of a dad growing up, but that was in the past. Your grandson is still young and there is hope that your so may change his parenting styles.
With the relationship with your daughter in law: Let her be the parent. Unless your son and daughter in law gave you specific directions to discuss the academic and behavior issues of your grandson at school, then do not try and fill their shoes.
With the relationship with your grandson: Continue to be the most loving grandmother that you can be. It sounds like your grandson means the world to you. Continue to do all of the things that make him happy to brighten his world.
Overall, I think that there are serious issues in the lifestyle of your grandson with regards XXXXX XXXXX home environment. It sounds like he is not getting the love , attention, respect, and care that he needs to emotionally thrive while at home. Therefore he will act out at home and it will in turn carry over into his relationships at school. He behaves well with you because he receives all that he needs. He is still young, but things must turn around in his home environment.
It is hard to change other people. We can only change ourselves. I would suggest that you seek professional counseling to learn coping and intervention strategies on how to deal with all of these issues. It seems like the only person who values your existence is your grandson. But you have been the glue that has held the family together.
If you have health insurance, call the customer service department and they can steer you in the right direction for counseling. You need a neutral source to discuss all of these issues with. It is just overwhelming to continue to live the way you are living.
If this has helped, please ACCEPT. BONUSES are appreciated as well for my efforts. Have a great day!!!