Your son is an adult and must be held accountable for his actions. It is your house and your son, even as an adult, must abide by the rules of your house. The main factor here is that he is unemployed. Once he does find a job, he needs to find another place to live or move into his rented house. You cannot allow him to "free load" off of you. He is too grown for that. You must continue to be proactive and not reactive. He is your son and continue to care and love him deeply. If you feel that you need additional help and the situation is only worsening, I would suggest that you seek professional help from a psychologist or a counselor so that you can receive coping and intervention strategies on how to best deal with your son. If you have health insurance, contact the customer service representatives and they will steer you in the correct direction.
If this has at all helped, please ACCEPT. I know as mothers sometimes we feel like we have the weight of the world on our shoulders. Hang in there though. This will one day be a distant memory.
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