Thank you for contacting Just Answer. I am sorry to hear about your problems with your son. As I am sure you know, at age 13, he is at a critical age --- meaning the start of puberty. I have treated many children over the years with confusion over their sexual identity. With a boy it usually has to do with their relationship with their dad. Therapy can be very helpful. It does matter what kind of therapy. It would require a therapy who is a certified psychoanalyst --- not that your son would need analysis but would need the therapist who has that kind of post graduate training. If you let me know where you live I'll give you a contact place that will help you find someone.
I am a single parent so he does not have a relationship with his dad. could this be the problem? His dad would be willing to meet him but he does not want this to happen and I don't want to force it. I live in Croydon, Surrey. Beckenham in Kent is also nearby. I would welcome a contact for counselling please.
YES!!!!!! that could very much be the problem. Let me find you a contact. Don't know if I could find someone in that area but I will look. If I can't I'll connect you with an organization in the UK that will know better what's in your area. I'm going to look. Will be back soon.
Thank you. I will wait to hear.
I don't know if this is near you but if you contacted them, they may know the right kind of therapist near you.
Let me know.
Did you get my last message requesting some help on phrases to use to open up a discussion regarding how my son feels about talking about his father please? I think I lost the internet connection
No, I didn't.
I would sit down and tell him that I wanted to talk to him about his dad. I would say,"I know that this is a very difficult issue --- it's difficult for both of us, but I love you very much, and want to have an open dialogue with you. I would like you to share your thoughts with me and ask me any questions that you would like to and I'll answer as best as I can."