I think it would be best if you and your children seek some professional counseling from an outside neutral source . If you have health insurance, contact them and they will be able to guide you in the right direction. Seeking professional help from a regular counselor, psychologist, or even from a church counselor will enable you and your children to express their feelings and receive coping skills to deal with such a difficult issue. For the mean time, if you and your (ex) husband can work out an agreement in an amicable way regarding when your children can visit without upsetting their lives and schedules, then do the best that you can for now. When you are going through the divorce process, a visitation schedule may be established for the minor children under a court order. Try not to let your personal feelings about the girlfriend be known to your children. Just keep on letting your children know that you and their father love them but can no longer agree on certain things and have decided to be apart. What is best for the children is of the utmost importance now...and your (ex)husband must realize and accept that fact. Actually bringing a new girlfriend into the picture now does not benefit anyone. She is only filling the void of your (ex) husband not having a family anymore. I hope that this has shed some light on the issue. Please do take care. Please accept so that I may be paid for my efforts. Thank you and have a great day.
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