Thank you for contacting Just Answer. I would most definitely stay at her place. Try to put what she is doing behind you during this momentous time. Use this opportunity to be there, to be loving, to be supportive. I know it's hard given how she's been. Try to reestablish what you had.You could always go to the distancing yourself but why not give this very important occasion your all --- maybe, just maybe, she'll come around to her senses. If she does then at some later date when things are better between you, you might want to ask her about it. For now, I'd shelve it.
OK, I'll go with your advice. I have asked my sister and aunt who are my 2 closest female pals, and they had opposing views. There is, as you surmised, a great deal of pain for me associated with this situation, but I am hoping that one day my daughter and I would be the pals we used to me.