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This is a very difficult and touchy situation. Your daughter obviously has her mind made up of what she is going to do. There is probably nothing you can do or say to change her mind. Although you may not agree with her selection of a future husband, you must always let her know that you love her but you do not care for this gentleman. If the wedding does take place, I probably would not spend very much on it. There already seems to be a great deal of tension. Marriage will not alleviate the friction. I would suggest that you and your daughter receive individual and then later joint counseling from a neutral source as to which direction to take. If you have health insurance, the providers can tell you who to contact. You do not want to destroy the relationship that you have with your daughter. This gentleman does not seem like a good match for your daughter. He may be trying to live off of what your daughter will be bringing to the marriage. A husband should be the provider. I cannot foresee this gentleman as providing much in the financial state that he is in now. Please seek some professional assistance. Even your church counselors may be able to help you. It sounds like you are in a lot of pain. I feel for you. Mothers have a good instinct when things just are not correct. Hang in there. This one day will pass.
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