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I am sorry to hear about the problems you are experiencing with your son. Your son is obviously an adult. As adults, we must learn to face the consequences of actions. No matter how much you love and care about him, he needs to accept these consequences, not try to find ways around them, if he is to have any chance of learning from them. I know that as a parent it is difficult and heart wrenching to think of your son in jail, but it is important for you to see this as a choice that he made when he chose to drive without a license. The more you bail him out, the more you send him the message that he can use you to avoid consequences in life. You may find this website helpful regarding enabling behaviors: http://www.internet-of-the-mind.com/enabling_behavior.html
Tell your son that you love him and that you want what is best for him; to learn from his actions. By choosing not to enable him you will be helping him more than you realize and it may be the "wake up" call he needs to get his life together. Tough love is difficult but extremely important here. I hope this helps. I hope this answer is helpful. Please let me know if I can clarify further.
I am heartbroken that this happened, but he has been playing with the law for a long time. He had attended classes for learning disabled when he was young and he stutters too. Does that have anything to do with all of this, pluse no support from his father at all.
I appreciate your answers because this is very confusing to me, as a mother.