To Dr. G.
1) What would be the potential negative effects on my 4 year-old daughter? How about my 8-month daughter? What things can I do to minimize the negative effects?
2) Is it better to have a happy home with only one parent than a home with two parents who do not love each other although we could agree that we can still live together and not fight?
3) My husband is proposing to make it work out because there are no big issues in our marriage -- no cheating, no addiction, no alcohol, no physical abuse -- just the constant fights about dividing household duties and money. However, we both admitted that we do not love each other anymore and that we even hate each other so I thought there is no poin tin trying again because it has been like this for the past 5 years (since the beginning of our marriage). That is why I thought the best way to go is divorce but I am afraid I am ruining my kids for not having a father since after the divorce he will move to Southern CA and we live in Northern CA.