When partners separate in many cases one or both partners cab have children with their new partner.
Due to the age of your children, try to prepare them for this by using language they can understand. Perhaps you may want to do this not just once since children this young may forget what was explained to them earlier. When you have the opportunity to talk to them either while at the park, over ice cream, before bed time or play time, etc. start introducing them to the idea that grown ups can have babies with different people. Point out to them that now when mommy had met another person, that he can also be a daddy. Ask them how would they feel to have someone else to play with and to be a part of the family. Try to point out the positive such as being a big brother/sister, being helpful to mommy, having another play mate later on, etc. Have your ex do the same.
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Thank you very much for your reply. One thing I wasn't exactly sure of was the part of "another person can be a daddy" in your answer. A daddy to them or just a father to a child in general? I'm guessing you meant as a father in general!? but I just want to clarify. I amtheir fater, nobody else. I don't even know of the chance of their(my exwife and her current bf)relationship working or not. She has chosen to have the baby, which I strongly support but she is not 100% sure on where her relationship with this man will be. We have been apart for over 2 years now and we agree to keep our relationships private from our children unless the relationship becomes "serious." I do feel however no matter what happens, they should have a sibling relationship with their new brother/sister, I just don't know how to tell them, especially my 5 1/2 yr old. Which btw, talks of wanting a baby sister. Lol.
Yes, father in general. They would only have one daddy you. You would let them know the other man is the daddy of the other baby and that their mom is the mom of the baby too. You could try using the analogy of planting a plant. Let them see how one seed can bear many fruits later on but it is the same original seed. The plant stem could be the mommy.
A sibling relationship would be inevitable if she choses to become pregnant. To tell the 5 year old perhaps start by gathering information on how they'd feel and what do they know about babies so far. Then you could point out that mommy can still have more babies. With children, it is important to reassure them that mommy won't love them any less.