You are in a difficult position living with an abusive parent. If possible, try to move out.
It not, you can either try to ignore her negative remarks or confront her. Confrontation may feel good to you only initially as you unload your pain but it doubtful that she will change. People (including parents) must want to change; she may not see anything wrong with her actions. It may be better to see that how she is and try to ignore or not believe her negative remarks. You could also write her a letter of how you feel/it is up to you. The person who is hurt always exerts more energy than the abuser.
When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life by Victoria Secunda