She is 6 year old. At this stage children still learn about themselves and the world and a lot of it comes from trial and error. You seem to be letting her see that some behaviors have consequences if someone is not careful. Children at this age learn by observing what others do and how they behave.
It may be a good idea to tell her to watch you while you do something and let her try some of the task herself. Encourage her to ask questions.
Making a chore or a task more of a fun game like activity versus something that would feel like schooling. Then, you can let her try. You can then let her know that you can assign some tasks for her (whatever you feel she can do like pick up the laundry and sort the colors, stack dishes in the washer, etc) and use a token economy to encourage her to be more mindful of her behaviors. If she does well, (tasks should be age related and not something that takes too long) she can earn something (whether it is a quarter or a chip or a mark on a calendar that she can later in the week cash for let's say a special treat)
i see what you are saying and we have tried that my issue is with the progressive thinking how can i teach her to become aware why she can't walk out in front of a car not just don't walk in front of cars she can follow instructions she just doesn't think for herself at all follows commands so the leading by example is still not thinking for herself