I have checked with MHMR sources. The better one won't take her with outstanding community service owed. Since she believes she hates me, only her father can take her & make arrangements. I have told (father) to enlist me in ANY way to help. But he's been putting off getting that done.
I don't know how to parent from a different residence. I'm afraid anything I insist on will create more animosity. My husband tunes me out as soon as I suggest anything. And I'm afraid my daughter will go further than the surface wounds if I try to force her into anything.
Please find a different person to help me. I appreciate your ideas, but I think you are missing info to give me an answer I can use. I am fully aware of the gravity of the situation, or I wouldn't be desperate enough to come to this resource I know nothing about. Child protective services sounds like a first rate way to ostracize each and every family member I have in an irreparable way. I can see the troubled daughter retaliating by doing something worse to herself as well. I have tried alternate venues. She owes community service, that I cannot force her to do since I am the unwanted parent. Her dad is waiting until after my other daughter finishes swim lessons next week to begin taking her to do her community service. I don't know what to tell you, but you write 3 sentences that feel like yelling things at me I already know, twice.