You really need to sit down with the girls and just let them know what your boundaries are. I would approach it from the perspective of now that they are adults / approaching adulthood, that you would appreciate a call before they come over, and that just for scheduling purposes, it would be best if they check with you before making plans with the other kids. It sounds like they have basically acted the way you originally told them, so hopefully they will be respectful enough to adjust their behavior appropriately. At this age many parents find themselves setting boundaries with their children, since they think of you as a parent, and there is a natural renegotiation of parent/child boundaries as they approach adulthood, I think they will best receive it if you come at it from that perspective.
If they are behaving like that then you should definitely restrict their access to your home and children. They need to show you respect in your home if they are going to visit and be around the younger children. I'd recommend that you sit down with them and let them know that they have been excessively rude and disrespectful to you and that because of that they need to call if they would like to come by, and for now you will not be allowing them to take the younger children out of the house, they may come and visit the children at your home, if they call first, but only if they act respectfully XXXXX XXXXX and your current husband. If they are unable to do that, then they will be asked to leave.
If it continues to be an issue, you may just have to tell them that although you love them you can not allow them to be disrespectful to your family and you will need them to not visit for a few months until things calm down and they can be more respectful. If that doesn't work then you may have to sever ties, however since they are a part of your children's lives I would try to avoid that unless there is no other option.