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what advantage i as a parent have to a 14 years old,who is ...

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what advantage i as a parent have to a 14 years old,who is not having sexual intercourse, this time of her life?
Submitted: 5 years ago.
Category: Parenting
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 5 years ago.

Hello Best

I apologize that I am not understanding your question clearly, can you explain it a little more so that I can help?

Are you the mother or the father?

What are you looking to accomplish?

Chase

Expert:  Ms Chase replied 5 years ago.

Hello best,

You do not have to open a new question, you can type your reply here.

Do you and your daughter talk about sex? Have you ever talked with her about sex?

Has she shown an interest in boys?

Do you and your daughter talk a lot? how is your relationship with her?

Chase

Customer: replied 5 years ago.
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Customer: replied 5 years ago.
Reply to Ms Chase's Post: how do deal with a sitution of my 14 years daughter, advantage off not having sexual intercource,at this time in her life.she is going throught pressures. and what strategies can i used if facewith this situation?
Customer: replied 5 years ago.
yes we have a great relationship,she is not intresting in having sex
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 5 years ago.

Best,

The best thing to do is to talk to her, sit her down and explain to her that many young men at this time in her life will only want to have sex, because they are young and are not thinking of the responsibility. Of course she doesn't want to get a disease or have a baby, but those are the physical aspects of it, it's better to wait until she is older so that she can deal with the emotional aspects of it as well. Talking to her cannot be a one time thing, it has to be something that is done often. Once a week, once every few weeks. Talk to her not just about sex, but about whats going on in school, what her friends are doing, who her friends are, what her desires are in life.

Keeping an eye on her computer use (she shouldn't have a computer in her bedroom), watching who she is allowed to hang out with or where she is allowed to go, making good use of her free time, keeping an eye on phone calls, etc can all help.

Here are some links on how to talk to your teen about sex

http://parentingteens.about.com/od/teensexuality/a/teen_sex_talk.htm

http://www.pamf.org/teen/parents/sex/talksex.html

http://www.aap.org/publiced/BR_TalkSexTeen.htm

http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/Sex_education_talking_to_teenagers?OpenDocument

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/sex-education/CC00032

 

The most important thing is creating a relationship where your teen knows that they can talk to you without you getting angry, yelling or beng judgemental. We may not like how they feel but we have to respect that they do feel. Being able to talk to them is the best way to avoid them making wrong choices. Listen more than you talk, be honest about sex and what it entails, and encourage her to talk to you.

I welcome your thoughts, let me know if you want to talk more.

Warmly

Chase

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Customer: replied 5 years ago.
thanks u. you were very helpful.
Expert:  Ms Chase replied 5 years ago.

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