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I hope someone can help me here. Problem:I am seriously thinking about leaving my family and life I know and just taking off to somewhere where no one can find me. A little history: Suffer from depression for all of my adult life, been in and out of counseling without any real help,I am under a doctors care and on anti-depressants and ritalin for what the doctor thinks is ADD (I don't think I have it). Have been on every anti-depressant known to man...none seem to really work. I am not really feeling extremely depressed right now. But for reasons I truly cannot explain I feel extremely angry and severely irritable. I know this will sound horrible- but I feel like I don't want to be a parent or wife anymore. I realize a lot of parents feel this way at times...but this has been about a year and a half now. If it wasn't for the guilt I feel about leaving, I would have already left. No, I am not an overly selfish person wanting to go screw around and be free. I just feel I need to go away. No, I'm not suicidal. Yes, I know my kids need me, but am I doing them any good being here when all I want to do is avoid them? The minute they all come home I am so overwhelmed I hide out in my office or bedroom. My husband tries to help by taking them to do stuff as often as he can, but the minute they get home I am ready to scream again. No amount of time off seems to help. My kids are well behaved, they are not the problem. When I discuss this with my doctor or husband I am not taken seriously. I am unable to handle even the slightest amount of stress. What is wrong with me?


It sounds like you are burned out, hon....My prayers and thoughts are with you.

Also, I believe that it's the medication you are taking - Although, I am against Western Medicine - I do believe that it's important for many people - but, for the right reasons. It's easy for medical practitioners to write a prescription....but, some can go overboard. You may just need a readjustment in medication.

However, I believe we all have the power to heal thyself - and/or with the use of herbal remedies/flower essences. There is a flower essence called "Rescue Remedy" and it is for emergency purposes - when our body/emotions/spirit happens to be out of balance (for shock, stress trauma)- it helps to center one's self - to readjust "normally" heals!

Flower essences are dilute extracts of various types of flowers and plants that are used to treat people and animals. They are similar to homeopathic remedies in that they are diluted and potentized to make them more effective than just using the original flower as a herbal extract. The person who first developed the original flower remedies was Dr. Edward Bach, a famous English physician. He developed the Bach Flower Remedies when he was working as a homeopathic practitioner and devoted the last years of his life to researching and developing his remedies, from 1930 onwards. He wanted to find a simpler form of treatment that would not require anything to be destroyed or altered.

Stress, life changes, worldly events, can certainly make one feel would help to just take a need quiet time, alone, to rethink, to get yourself back to "you"..You seem to have gone beyond your limits, that's why you feel like you're ready to scream.

Personally, I don't believe anything is wrong with you - you just need to put things back into proper perspective.

If you are able to, seek the care and treatment of a holistic doctor - who heals in body, mind and spirit - Take some meditation classes. Practice Yoga.....learn to breathe - inhale/exhale - relax!

If you are interested, you should try the flower essence - it's really a life saver - you will notice a huge difference in your life.

I hope that I have helped some. If you wish for further information, please let me know.

My very best to you.

Bright Blessings.

Peace, Love & Happiness,

The Mystic Wave

Customer: replied 11 years ago.
Reply to TheMysticWave's Post: I'm sorry but I have tried many med changes to no avail. I think this is beyond burnt out. I need some realistic advice. Are there any other medical type specialists who could respond to my question? Please...I feel desperate here...


Thank you for responding.

I'm sorry that you feel that my response was unrealistic.

Yes, there are other specialists here. I'm certain that someone will assist you.

Please take care.

Bright Blessings.

Peace, Love & Happiness,

The Mystic Wave

First of all, let me say.. Been there done that, you are not alone.

2nd of all.. I believe there is hope!

I don't know how old your kids are. Do you think seriously that part of this may be Postpartum? Which can last a long, long time.

Plus you say you are seeing a doctor. Is it just a regular family doctor? If so, even though they can prescribe such medications, they are not as good as supplying the correct dosage we may or may not need. Finding a dosage is the main part of treatment if medication is what you need. (which is where a Psychiatrist whom prescribes medication is helpful. Sometimes going from one kind to another can be worse for us I think, but I am not a doctor (but I know how I felt when I went thru all that)

Except other than what you are doing by seeking advise. I did leave hubby and kids. That was 7 years ago and boy oh boy did I lose soooo much. It may not feel like much right now because you just want to run. But once you do run then what? Would hubby let you back? Or would he say forget it? My hubby said forget it and he got all 3 kids.

Even though we ended up with a divorce at that time nothing seemed to matter anyway. Deep down it actually made me feel worse.

Then one day I realized I had to do for me. Had to eat, work all those things I had taken for granted. But thats what I wanted right? Home life was way too much thats why I was on my own. So I started to do for myself.

I finally got a job, started to just make a small life for myself. But I still had kids.

So after a long time, I started to talk w/the kids again. (mind you they were younger then) but I messed up my future and had to start a new life. It was very ruff. I did end up moving back near the kids and started seeing them.

Now 7 years later, I am finally remarried. (1 year last month)(thank god to another terrific man) I did get my oldest son about 2 years ago. And now my daughter will be here Saturday and she is going to live with me too now.

So I think if I had to do this whole situation over, and I have talked this over with my ex a couple of years ago. He just said I should have went away for a short time. Like get my own place, see how it is and to go clear my head rather than leave (I went away 800 miles (different state)

So since the way you are feeling is how I felt way back then. Your thoughts of wanting to leave will get stronger. You need to act on those feelings now with support of your husband and family. If you love your kids and your husband then tell them. But also let them know you need a vacation so to speak. Hopefully you are in the situation you can go and still have a place to come back to when the time is right. It doesn't make you a bad person. So don't ever let anyone tell you that it does. You are human we all deal with things in a different way. I do believe we have to do what is right within ourselves before we can be happy with someone. Follow your heart, not your head. Talk to hubby see what your options are (as far as child care, money, time away) go and get yourself healed. In order to be OK you need to have a solid foundation of stability, or anything you put on that foundation (kids, hubby, life in general) will tilt and then eventually break. (thats why a strong foundation is needed) Once you have that foundation, you will do just fine.

I hope you can understand what I am saying, I know I am trying to put 7 years into a few paragraphs.

I wish you all the best hun..

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well first off you cant just leave your family, you made the decision to have the family so now its a part of who you are. I mean you could leave but just your children will never forgive you. They love you and need you. It would be emotionally stressful for them, and you dont want to put them through that. But you do need to think of yourself too. If your not well enough to care for yourself then you cant care for them. Before you take off try a vacation. to a very far away place by yourself. A relaxing place like the bahamas if possible. My husband and i were going through problems and he was suffering depression so while i went away to visit family he went to the bahamas and he came back so happy and relaxed he was the person that i first fell in love with again. You just need some time for yourself to relax and escape life. But just for a little while. Discuss it with your family, let them know how bad you need this break. Besides you deserve it i know how hard it can get being a mom and a wife. If my advice has been helpful to you please vaule my time by accepting my answer
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