It is possible that you have a bartholian gland cyst. This is fairly common
You can try soaking in a warm bath as often as possible during the day. This will allow the cyst to drain and heal on its own.
Another option would be to see your OB/GYN. She could incise the infected gland and put a drain in it for a time so that it can heal or, alternatively, she can cut it open and partially stitch it shut (called marsupialization) so that it can heal and -- hopefully -- never come back.
Of course, the best way to know exactly what is going on would be to have your OB/GYN have a look at you.....
I would not recommend putting steroid cream or other ointments on the area at this point since what you really need is a good diagnosis....
So. What to do?
1. Try the sitz baths (soaking in the tub)
2. If that doesn't improve things in a day or two, or you continue to get worse, see your OB doc.
Does this make sense to you?
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