generally speaking an active HPV infection will produce abnormal cells on a pap test anywhere from 3-24 months. I know this is a wide range, but the problem is a woman may have had HPV for years before there an 'active' infection...meaning the virus has the opportunity to invade cells. One risk factor for abnormal pap tests is a new partner in the last 3-6 months, so that's what I generally use as a rough guideline to make a time line. Again though, HPV is tricky because it isn't overly aggressive and doesn't stimulate the immune system very well. For those reasons, nobody really knows how long the virus has been present in a woman...or when it became 'active'.
OK. an abnormal pap test progressing to cervical cancer generally takes a long time - average is 10 years. Therefore, if you have never had an abnormal pap test it would be extremely rare that you had cancer. Cervical cancer also does not typically present with the symptoms you have/had as the bleeding is typically associated with intercourse....and, there is typically something that you can see or feel when one does a pap test. Also, an ASCUS pap test actually being cancer is extremely unlikely....the way I know you have an ASCUS pap is that is the only result that HPV test is done automatically. Don't worry yourself too much about cancer, just keep your appointments so that this is taken care of properly.
This is a topic of debate....should a woman tell her partner that she has/had HPV? That's an individual decision that I think the most ethical answer is yes, but again, it's not my decision. Absolutely no reason to abstain from intercourse at all -
thanks for the kind words.
you too..take care and good luck