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Have you been asked by the police to go for an interview as yet? They can ask you to do so but you do not have to say anything of course. Has she asked for a protection order through the Family Court? Are you still living in the same property?
So far, are you only hearing rumours about what she is doing? Are you keeping in contact with her or have you stopped taking her calls and texts? Are the children involved?
You can of course defend any criminal charges which have been brought. You should tell your employers that the allegations are false, (I expect you have already said so) and that you will be defending any such charges if they are brought. You will need to be very careful if the police contact you, and I would suggest you contact a lawyer if they want to interview you. Is this violence alleged to be physical?
Are there children or property to be divided?
She obviously didnt complain at that time, so the delay will not help her complaint. Did she seek medical help at the time?
It is difficult to say whether the court will want to proceed on these allegations. The police may be a little reluctant to proceed on old allegations, but the text messages may be a problem for you. But the police will often late charges for domestic violence believing the person who complains, but you have a full opportunity to defend the case. If you cannot afford a lawyer you can apply for legal aid if you are charged
If you are charged by the police then you could get references. The other possibility would be to try and mediate any remaining disputes, which could include an offer by you not to contact her, or have your friends contact her, and have a mutual noncontact agreement
You need to be careful when you talk to the police because they will not want to hear about her history. They will accuse you of victim blaming, so it could turn wrong for you. You're best just saying to the police that you deny any violence both in the past and that you don't want to contact her in the future. At best you could say that you think she is a bit fragile, caused by her family history but that this was not caused by you
You could suggest that the police talk to friends of yours, who knew you a couple and could comment on the allegations of violence.
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You will need to wait and use the time to instruct a lawyer to go with you to the police. I can suggest lawyers, but dont know your city
The first does help with fixed fees and Graeme is very experienced but may not be as cheap