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Relocation cases are always difficult. Are you thinking of leaving him and returning with the children?
I can give you some general advice about the rules, but in essence, where the children have settled into a country, for a period like this, you could not take the children without your husbands consent, and it would be inadvisable to just take them.
The relocation is covered by the Hague Convention and the Care of Children Act
The basic principles of the Convention are that:
If a child is abducted from New Zealand, the child is returned to New Zealand so that issues of parental responsibility can be resolved by the Family Court. If a child is wrongfully retained in New Zealand, the child is returned to their country of habitual residence.
The Hague Convention assumes that the courts in the child's country of habitual residence are best able to make decisions about the best interests of the child.
So you could relocate with his consent, and you will know whether that is possible.
Perhaps you consider counselling to enable you both to discuss the issue? This would enable a neutral person to assist you in the discussion.
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