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I would suggest 2 different things. The first is to try to go and see him anyway, and avoid seeing the wife, and just dont talk about the property but make your peace if you can. Try to see him without her around.
The second is that the Family Protection Act will give you and your family a good claim against the estate
This act and its application are settled law, and you will almost certainly overturn the will, although the wife is likely to get half of his estate anyway.
So if he dies, you get your lawyer to immediately tell his lawyer that you are making a claim and get the court papers prepared and filed promptly. If they are then given to the wife and the state lawyer this will protect the position until a settlement can be reached or a court rules on this.
You can take measures to preserve the property if he dies by a freezing order. You could get the papers ready to file as well. Probate is the process of applying to prove his will, after he dies.
If you keep any visit low key you can just make a quick visit and test the water. If it goes badly at least you tried.
Costs are usually awarded from the estate, which may help.
The usename for me does look a bit pretentious but I didnt think when I chose it! I think you had some predictive spelling- an I pad?
Lawyers in Christchurch..some names
Tell me about it-tonight I am on a keyboard though
No, in Wellington, but I am not allowed to take work from the site
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