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This is a difficult situation for you. but if you are leaving she may not be so difficult. You are entitled to a certificate of service in any event, and you should ask HR for this whatever you do. Perhaps this is time to grease up to the manager and tell her you are moving on and how helpful she has been and then ask for a reference. She can only say no, or give you one and you would have a certificate of service anyway
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