Thank you Ma'am
That would be the first step
The law supports you on this...that is good. If your marriage
was 10 years or longer during his service, he retired, and you have a court order dividing the retirement? Then this is easy...or should be
Typically these take a few weeks to process.
It sounds like yours got lost!
I am sorry for that.
The first step is to contract DFAS. Let them know what happened...it may be they can find the request and process immediately. It may be you have to fax it to them again. Regardless, I would expect DFAS to solve this for you
Next? If they do not? Contact your congressman...they can engage on your behalf.
If you had to, you could sue and force DFAS to follow the law...but I doubt that this is required.
Now...the other thing to consider is that your ex is in contempt of the court order...so you can bring him to court and ask the court to award a judgment for all that money he did not pay you over the years. That is separate and apart from DFAS and would require you have a lawyer assist you.
But for DFAS? If you contact them, I bet they can fix this for you