Thanks for the chance to help. I am an attorney with over 12 years military law experience.
Ma'am you are correct, even though you are married, he has a duty to conduct himself, as a Naval officer, "above reproach"
So actively dating other women could be seen as a violation of Article 133, UCMJ, as "conduct unbecoming
an officer and gentleman"
As well, if he has engaged in sexual intercourse, that can be charged as Article 134
, UCMJ "adultery"
If your goal is to hold him accountable for his misconduct, you can contact his commanding officer
. They can investigate and, if appropriate, prosecute him. This would likely lead to his removal from the Navy
But be careful what you ask for...you may well get it.
If he is discharged from the Navy for misconduct he will loose his right to a military retirement
pension. And this can impact you as well (since if you divorce the court can order a portion of his pension to you...if he is kicked out? Then there is nothing for the court to award you). Also if he is kicked out, that could impact his ability to gain employment...which would translate to a lower support payment for you.
YOur call...it is illegal. But it may not be in your best interest to report.