Is there anything I can do about my husband's other-than-physical abuse/trauma and infidelity during our year-long Marriage?
State/Country relating to question: United States
He will not submit to any sort of counseling or therapy. I have no idea where he works, what he's doing and no real proof of his whereabouts.
Thanks for the chance to help. I am an attorney with over 12 years military law experience.I am not sure I understand...you want to know if you can file for divorce based on his Adultery?
I'm sure that I could get a divorce, but I'm wondering if there is anything that could tag him for his infidelity and crude behavior. I have gone through multiple injuries and an assault case; during all of which he has done nothing but harass me and collect allotments of pay. I do not know of any sort of consequence for spouses, because I have heard worse stories about soldiers' spouses taking everything from them while they are deployed, no consequences to follow them. My husband has never struck me, but I am seeing counselors, doctors, neurologists.. I do receive counseling on behalf of assault traumas and the betrayal of my loved one. I do not wish to put him away, just to be called on his actions, if it is possible.I appreciate your time and advice and I thank you very much, sir.
Your spouses base will likely have a "family advocacy" office. I would urge you to vist them and advise them of what is happening.What you describe is not uncommon. That is, emotional Abuse by a service member to their spouse is not uncommon at all in the military. And the first step to deal with the problem is to identify the problem. The Family Advocacy program is designed to intervene into cases like you describe. They can investigate emotional abuse and make recommendations to the commander. So that is one good way to hold him accountable for this misconduct.Now, if there is not a family advocacy office on the base he is stationed at, it makes it a bit more difficult for you, but you can still report this abuse. Commanders are trained to confront emotional abuse...and his commander has the power to take steps to hold him accountable for his abuse. So I would report this, either to the family advocacy office, or if there is not one at the base, then to the commander directly. Let the commander take steps to hold him accountable
Retired Marine Corps Lawyer, Veterans Services Officer (VSO)
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