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I am living with my partner, I have 4 daughters (aged 23, 20, 10 & 7 - the younger 3 at home full time) he has a son (9) and daughter (12) We have 2 issues - his daughter lies, steals from my daughter, manipulates he and I. Recently she has made some nasty comments about me to my 10 year old, and also to my partner (he told me what she said) She also does things like make cupcakes, and when she comes for visitation brings 2 cupcakes and pointedly says "I made these JUST for you Daddy" He finds this adorable, I think it is a dig at me. He refuses to discuss her issues with me with her, he thinks that my 10 year old is making it up (as his daughter is "just a child and doesn't think or behave like that" - aside - what so my 10 year old does?) The 2 girls have connected ipods, and SD 12 also sends rude messages to my daughter - "F**K you", and writes notes saying "Emma is a bitch" As I said, my partner refuses to acknowledge that his daughter is behaving badly as she is his "baby" and would never behave that way. What can I do? Secondly. We are supposed to have his children every Wednesday evening, and every second weekend Friday to Sunday night. Ok, that's fine. When they are here they control everything. He spends a lot of that time solely focussed on them. Ok. He also sees them outside of that time quite a lot - takes them to sporting activities, school functions (I am not allowed to attend as his ex-wife causes scenes and the kids don't want me there) I encourage him to spend time with them alone (without me) And I try to stay in the background and allow them time when they are all in my house. However, for various reasons we have had them 8 out of the last 9 weekends, and I want some time out from them. Am I being unreasonable? On the weekends when we don't have them my older daughter will babysit and we get to spend some quality alone time together, needless to say that hasn't happened for nigh on 2 months now. I am tired of the stress of them being here, the attitude from Miss 12, the never having any time alone with my partner. He thinks I am trying to come between him and his kids. He says they would be here all the time if he had his way. If that were the case they would be spending every other weekend with their mother - win for me LOL They would also get less leeway with me staying in the background, and be expected to modify a LOT of their behaviours that we can't reasonably deal with in the small amt of time we have them. So, am I being unfair for being annoyed at him requesting to have them AGAIN this weekend (he asked just for Sunday for a particular event, she said we have to take them Saturday afternoon)