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Hi - I have a challenging question and I have no idea how to handle. I'm a long time (8 years) boyfriend of my girlfriend. I've gotten to know my girlfriend's family over those years mostly for holiday visits as they live in Northern Michigan and we live in New Orleans. My in-laws, for lack of a better word, are 1st generation polish immigrants -- not a group that speaks about mental issues. I've been hundreds of hours counseling over my 53yr lifetime and am a better man for it. So I'm watching a dynamic play out with my girlfriends niece that concerns deeply. Her brother is married to an absolute control freak. They have two daughters and she controlled every element of their life, phone checks every night, internet checks, come home straight from school, no after school activities, chores every night, no make up, no boys...until the oldest one went away to college starting last fall. We all thought that for the first time she would enjoy some freedom. Until last month when she announced she had a boyfriend. Great, right? So guess what this guy does -- tracks her internet use, tracks her phone, doesn't let her go out with her new friends...and on and one...all she's done is substitute one authority figure with control issues with another. Like the girl with the abusive father picking up abusive boyfriends...and so the cycle begins. Here's the hard part, she doesn't think she has a problem, and the parents aren't really helpful either. Its like you can see the train wreck pending and you can't move the car off the track. Any suggestions appreciated.