I am a 52 yr old woman who was in a 3 yr relationship with a man I love very much. He has suffered from both chronic pain/depression for a number of years, although it has gotten worse. He started to see a new psychiatrist (at my urging) and goes twice
weekly for therapy and additionally, takes antidepressants. He blames himself for his pain - (he believes it stems from a surgery years ago as he chose a more invasive procedure.) We have gone to a multitude of doctors, and no doctor can find a physical cause.
While difficult to be with someone who suffers from both chronic pain and depression, I have always been supportive. He has a few friends, but limits contact with them as this stirs up feelings of insecurity for him. He feels he is a failure as his friends
have extreme wealth due to their business ventures. I am the only person who knows what he is going through and is/was his only source of support and social interaction. Last week he told me he feels that he needs to focus on healing and ended the relationship.
He said while I have been supportive, it is difficult to be in relationship when he is in daily pain, coupled with the stress that comes with having to meet my needs and he feels he needs to be alone to accomplish this and also feels guilty that he is putting
me through this. He also mentioned (I am not sure why) that his psychiatrist said he believes he is ambivalent about ending the relationship and that he (the psychiatrist) also thinks it is premature. Nevertheless, he did end it. I told him that I want to
be there for him but if this is his decision, then there is nothing else I can do. I have decided to focus on myself and perhaps seek counseling as well. I thought my life would be with this man and beside the fact that my heart aches for his pain - I too
am now in pain. He has an attachment to my dog, so I left her there when I was on a business trip. It is better for her then a kennel and I know she provides comfort to him. I picked her up yesterday and just thanked him and said I was tired after my trip
and wanted to go home. I have not initiated any communication - but I don’t know what to do next? My friends say I should pick up my things (a closet full, albeit, nothing I need immediately) and never speak to him again. He has not called, but does initiate
some contact - we always played "Words with Friends" - and he still initiates games. One friend said I should cut that off too and let him know what it is like for me to be completely out of his life, my other friend said that even though it is just a game,
it is his way of staying "connected" to me, and if I love him and want him back, I should continue to do so. Should I pick up my things and cut off all contact and just try to “move on” or continue to be available both in playing the game and if/when he reaches
out?

Since mania can be a sign of bipolar but since my son had mania and hallucinations and is now not making as much eye contact as normal does this mean he is more likely to be diagnosed with schizoaffective disorder that bipolar depression?

Thank-you for your words of encouragement I really need them. I just wonder if you would happen to know if the lack of eye contact would mean that the diagnosis is more likely to be schizophrenia or schizoaffective disorder rather than bipolar disorder. He has an uncle with schizpphrenia and so I am very worried that this will be the diagnosis. However he did seem to have been in a manic state prior to his admission to hospital. I did find out that they are giving him some medicine right now but have not told him what the diagnosis is.