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Am I crazy or self centered? Two things happened this past weekend. My adult daughter has a friend whos' father died. I've met this friend once in the past, but have heard her talk about him often. He also is an adult, is single and lives with his mother. I experienced an attempted breakin at my apartment, where I live alone. The police came and confirmed it was an attempted breakin. My 2 adult children (one lives in D.C., and the other is the one with the friend) know I am independent and pretty tough. They know I own a rifle and stun gun as well. However, I am 60 and a woman, not Superwoman. I contacted my son, told him, and we discussed whether or not loading my rifle was a good idea. We opted for yes. I decided that since I'm nearly completely nocturnal I'd go ahead and stay up for the entire night for awhile as well. Since I'd be vigilant and nervous I knew I'd better contact my daughter, to tell her not to make surprise visits. The day after I called to tell her. No answer, so I texted I'd had something important I wanted to talk to her about. I thought it 'd be best to talk not text. I didn't want her to over react. I wanted to tell her, then show her I was calm and prepared, plus make sure she didn't pop over unannounced. She replied by texting that her friend, Anubis', father just died and she'd spent the day with him because he was taking it very badly. We texted back and forth abt the fathers death and Anubis, and before ending the texts I repeated 'don't forget, I have to talk to you about something important. Second day I texted her again that I had to talk to her about something very important. She didn't reply. That night before I sat there all night with that damned rifle I decided to go ahead and text the story about the attempted breakin and why I was concerned about her safety if she visited. She didn't reply. She did reply "So you forgot". "Jesus Christ, you forgot that Anubis' father died and he made me stay at his house?". She never said she was staying with him. I hardly know Anubis. I am shocked, confused, upset and angry.. Am I selfish for feeling hurt? Am I crazy for feeling like something is wrong with her behavior in this situation? This is one little example of a lifetime of bigger troubles. I've yet to shed enough light on it to satisfy me.