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OKMH14211 Before an 8 month Mil. Deployment, wife displayed slight insecurity issues. The day of my return when met together in Hawaii, she was immediately, irrationally and oddly insecure. Waitress came to table, shed cry. Accused constantly of looking at other women. Confronted her kindly, started back up 15 minutes later. It was strange. She looked her best then. Completely ruined our first vacation and first days back together. New hair, lost weight, etc. What could honestly be the problem?
Going through a divorce now.
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It can be very hard on your wife with you gone and in that time of absence her mind was free to wander and fill it in with worry and fear that you would find someone else. This isn't uncommon and in addition to that worry, she may also worry about your safety while being deployed. She can feel better with a lot of reassurance from you and care taking and remind her how you love her. and your actions too are important....listening, holding, cuddling are all great ways to provide the safety and comfort she needs. But all of this becomes a moot point if the marriage is ending...is that your desire of hers?
It is quite possible that she began to have feelings for him...I don't know that she cheated but maybe had some mild interest and was projecting those feelings onto you by worrying that it was you that was cheating. She may have been scared by her own feelings for him.
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