Good morning and thank you so much for your message. I realize it's difficult to reach out. Please know I honor your courage.
My name is ***** ***** I am a psychotherapist in the Metro Boston area of the United States.
Ohhhh sweet soul, this is very difficult and I imagine incredibly hard on you and the relationship. Your girlfriend has abandonment issues and is terrified of loosing you. It sounds like you are really all she has in her life, so she holds on so tightly.
Sadly, though, this will be the very thing that will cause the relationship to end. This is, no doubt, far to difficult to endure from your end. I imagine it leaves you beyond exhausted.
Please know, sweet soul, this is not about you. These are her issues.
Would she consider seeing a therapist to work through some of the issues from her past? Can you very very gently suggest this? If the thought of this overwhelms her, perhaps she would be open seeing a therapist together?
I also recommend checking out these articles on attachment styles in relationships:
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