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Hello and thanks for writing to us. My name is***** am so sorry you are dealing with this with your son. You and your husband must be besides yourselves with worry. Because your son is threatening suicide and just generally so out of touch right now refusing to let you help him, I would strongly consider putting together a petition for him to get involuntarily hospitalized for assessment and treatment. The basis for your petition will be that your son is a threat to his own safety. The rules for how to petition someone to receive involuntary hospital care differ in each state so I would contact your local police station or nearest in-state psychiatric emergency room and ask to talk to someone familiar with the process for appealing for this. These types or orders are often referred to as 5150s and paperwork is involved. While it sounds really scary, it may save your son's life and give him a chance to regain control over his mental health. Here is a link to general guidelines for each state on when to pursue these types of treatment orders however it is still advisable you contact someone who knows the system and how to proceed. http://mentalillnesspolicy.org/studies/state-standards-involuntary-treatment.html
I hope this helps give you an idea for a next step you may need to consider. I am hugely sorry your family is in this position.
I understand that there is a stigma attached to getting this type of treatment but the implications may be worse if this remains untreated. I wish I had an alternative solution but if your son is refusing intervention to this degree and is really suffering, then there just aren't that many options for how to help. If he is in your home, you can consider ultimatums to him that he must comply with mental health treatment should he wish to stay there. With that, you can make an appointment with a psychiatrist for evaluation and demand he go with you. You can continue to offer unwavering support and care and love while pleading he get treatment on his own and hope that he is willing to do it with you. But in general, even unwavering support, urgency and threats like this can fall on deaf ears when the person is truly depressed. Plus, it puts you in the position of policing him which, because he is an adult, can be very difficult to do.
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