My son was an academic achiever in high school. He wanted to attend an ivy university. He managed to get into a top school (just below Ivy).
He was a good kid in HS. He did
not party at all. He was obsessed with his grades and doing well.
Now he half way through his first semester and it's a disaster. He has received citations for alcohol and is failing two classes. He doesn't want to study and feels college shld be the best time in life and doesn't want to do all the work needed.
Some background: He didn't not engage during the college admittance process. I had to force him to write essays, select schools to apply to etc. He wanted me to pick his college and select his classes.
He didn't register for dorm until late. He didn't want to discuss going away to colllege
Now he wants to transfer to a more relaxed environment. He doesn't want to work too hard.
I don't know what problem to solve first. The immaturity and partying issue, the failing grades or the new request to transfer.
What's going on with him? It's unusual behavior.