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do we know why he cheated?
does he have depression or anxiety?
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Good evening, Susan, and thank you so much for your message. I realize it's difficult to reach out. Please know I honor your courage.
My name is ***** ***** I am a psychotherapist in the Metro Boston area.
I am so sorry to hear about the decisions your son has made. As a parent, it truly aches when our children make poor decisions, doesn't it? My heart aches for you as I imagine you have worked hard to install a strong moral compass and solid decision-making.
I am pleased to hear your son is working on himself through therapy. This is good news. I would encourage him to discuss this situation with his therapist and be honest and open with him/her. I don't think he necessarily needs to change therapists--the most important part of therapy's effectiveness is working with a therapist who the client feels most comfortable with. Also, he is the one who needs to want to make change and be better.
Since your son is over age 18, you sadly can't speak with his therapist without a written consent from your son. You can, however, write a letter to the therapist voicing your concern over recent events.
I would also very gently discuss this situation with your son--your sadness over decisions made around his relationship and see if there is any way you can assist. I would also let him know you are available in anyway he needs. Sadly, beyond that there is not much that you can do as he is an adult and obviously makes his own choices.
Again, I am so sorry, Susan. This truly is a difficult situation.
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