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Welcome to JA. My name is ***** ***** I am a licensed psychotherapist in private practice in NYS. I am preparing my reply and will post in one moment.
Oh dear child, she certainly does have some challenges in her life with her parents behaviors and mental health issues. BUT she does have you, her grandmother and that is so important. There was research done on groups of adults who when they were children were very vulnerable to crisis, trauma and family dysfunction. These adults had all overcome their childhood to become relatively well adjusted, successful individuals. The one variable the researchers were able to determine made the difference is that they each could identify ONE emotionally available, stable adult in their lives as children who was there for them and believed in them. One of the reasons that children are over emotional and also can not remember details of their day/life is because they are on emotional overload trying to cope with what is going on in their lives. They are in a state of emotional survival and can only process so much data from their day. Time and attention from you by phone, cards, letters and face to face time that is positive and uplifting is really important for her. Also every school system has a team of either psychologists, social workers and/or counselors to meet the emotional/mental needs of the children. If it is possible, it would be excellent for you to call her school as her grandmother to share your concerns. You could request that she be given some counseling time to process and vent her feelings. Is this something you could possibly do? I look forward to hearing from you. Sincerely, ***** ***** LMSW, CASAC